There’s been some talking, some understanding and he knows he will need therapy for a long time. Some of this is childhood stuff, some over time, but all of it destructive.
He is very sorry and I believe him, he is a covert narcissist but not 100% (at least not now) and he is no psychopath lol.
He offered his way forward, the therapy, the personal space, the financial investment, the job, taking responsibility, reaching out, to apologise properly, to try to make amends and show who he really is.
The list is long, and it will be a process.
And he/I cannot go through this in the same house. I mean me policing his every move, him scared all the time of the final straw arriving, and that’s just a superficial assessment. So…cos I really don’t want to actually hurt him any more than I already have, and I think he really is ill. I offered to support him to move out so he can work to make these changes in himself.
Let’s say it didn’t go as badly as I expected…I mean, yeah, tears and stuff and back in his room. But, he at least said he is thinking on what I said…and today he seemed in quite a positive mood…time and another conversation will tell.
Either way of course, ain’t now’t happening until the lockdown ends…
Sara's Narcissus and Other Stories 