So much has gone off in the last weeks it is difficult to know where to start it really is…
Ok, lets begin with money as this is actually the easiest part to explain.
Basically he had this idea that if i give him more (unspecified) than I am offering, he will give the kids 10% of the market value of the house when he sells it, and he will make them beneficiaries in his will. He mentioned borrowing off my mum, but come on…it is not up to her to pay him off…cheeky bastard! However, that should have alerted me to the numbers he had in mind.
Anyway, I consulted a bit, and basically decided that it largely depended on how much more he wanted. It also occurred to me that he could give the kids that 10% if he cares so much anyway. Also, he can change his will at any time so that actually means very little.
On Sunday I tried to talk to him about money, and he immediately twisted it into his usual ‘what I can do for you’ speach, which wound me up and it didn’t go well. When I finally did manage to speak to him about it, I found out he expected the same amount as before with this added offer. So, in effect…I pay 30% deposit for a house for him, and he gives the kids 10% back. What a shit deal.
His problem however is simple. He does not earn enough to get a mortgage big enough to get a house and he needs a 30k deposit to do it…from me apparently.
Anyway, I have upped my offer, he said no, I said Solicitors, he said he will think on it, answer tomorrow apparently…
HOWEVER…WARNING! WARNING! WARNING!
He is starting to try and build a new narrative, I can hear it…I might be getting paraniod, but its some of the language he is starting to use…I feel he is pushing my buttons to get me to react so he can be the victim again.
I think if he doesn’t agree tomorrow, I am going to call a solicitor, this has gone on far too long.
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