Later on that day, I read many more messages of support and advice, the outrage at the idea that I should basically pay him for the privilege of being with me, was a step too far. The general consensus of opinion was that he was not entitled to a penny out of me.
There were lots of comments to that effect:
Sat 05-Sep-20 13:38:23
Please note that not a single person in your life or on this thread has suggested that he is right or
reasonable.
As others have said, he’s been housed, heated, fed and watered for the paltry sum of £13 a day.
No grown man can live for that.
You have saved him a fortune and subsidised his living for long enough.
You owe him nothing
He’s keeping you on the back foot so that you can’t find enough mental energy to get justifiably angry,
trust me when I say everyone is mad on your behalf.
I think he is actually committing a crime – coercive control / financial abuse?
…and the frustration was coming out in a few contributors
For the love of God woman, don’t give him any money. Give him a deadline and get a solicitor. You owe
him NOTHING!! Can your son ‘help’ him move? Get him out and stop feeling guilty!
ARE YOU MAD…. kick him out today. Make him realise where is bread was buttered x
OMG, pack his stuff, tell him to Fuck Off & change the locks. What’s wrong with you woman?!
I gave it some serious thought over the next few hours I can tell you….
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